Starting a business is challenging, but the challenge is even greater when you’re young. Little no work-experience, life-experience or business experience you’re in for a real treat. You’re also somewhat looked down upon by the older guys who sit with the money you want, perhaps not without reason though. There has been some really successful young people in the past decade and we may be fooled into thinking that everyone can accomplish everything.
I’m going to be a tad pessimistic now
Contrary to what your mom and dad may have taught you, you can’t do everything. I get a lot of crap for saying that, but here’s why I do so. Yes you can go from singing like a dying animal to singing well. Can you become as good as Michael Jackson? Well I wouldn’t even know, because I’m still at the dying animal stage of my singing career. Thing is, if I wanted to learn to sing.. I would have to invest so much time into it. We’re not talking tens of hours, not hundreds, more like thousands of hours and you know what? I don’t think neither you nor I will do that any time soon. If you do though, let me know!
You see, when everyone says that everything is possible, they leave out one crucial little thing; the time it takes to accomplish that goal. You want to learn to sing, but can’t? Have fun spending the next 10 years learning it. Want to become an astronaut? Well you’re going to have to spend a lot of years with your face down in books studying shit that I couldn’t possibly understand. You want to become great? Then get ready to invest the time!
Perhaps you don’t have the willpower and the time to become the best in everything, maybe you won’t be a world class singer, run your business and be an astronaut as well. But you can be one of those things if you work fucking hard. That’s what I did.
Want to know why and how I started my own business? I put in the work. We’re talking the 10 hour days, 7 days a week learning economy, business, investing, public speaking and so much more. I invested all my time into it.
But here’s the bottom line. You can’t do everything, because you don’t truly want to do everything. When your mom told you that you’re special and can do whatever you want, she never told you about the time needed to do it. She didn’t talk about the shit you go through on the path to the end result you seek. No one told you about the 7 day work days, not eating Sunday dinners with your family for months on end and prioritising work over holidays time after time after time. If you want to become great in something you need to put in the work AND YOU DON’T IF YOU DON’T LOVE IT.
It’s perfectly fine to pursue something only to realise it’s not for you. That being said, if you don’t love the grind you won’t get the end result no matter what. If you want to create a business you better enjoy putting in the work, day in day out. This goes for everything.
You know why you can’t accomplish everything? Because you don’t truly don’t want it and you don’t have the motivation to put in the bonebreaking hours, day in and day out in everything.
I won’t say I’m the perfect guy who has his life perfectly where he would want it. Who does? I’ve been through a lot of shit in my 20-something years aboard this space-rock. You wanna know some truth though? I live my life, the way I want it.
When you’re a dude up in your twenties, blogging isn’t exactly the most prestigious activity to be investing time in, however, I don’t care about that. I don’t really bother with all the norms that we have in todays society that affect the majority of the population. I live by the following quote
“Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively.”
― Dalai Llama XIV
Live is too short. Don’t center your life upon the things that don’t matter. Your old fart of a grandmas perception of your work, doesn’t matter. Perhaps she has some advice you should listen to, but don’t let her dismay ruin ruin your life. When I went to study to become a real estate agent, I ended up quitting after half a year after being practically pressured out of it by my family who did not approve at all. That following fall I started studying to become a teacher, which I’ll admit I love. That being said, I’ll drop out.
When I was a kid back in high school my grades were shit. I did a lot of stupid things which I regret in hindsight. I finished with shit grades. At that point I realised that I’d probably never finish a degree any time soon. My family wouldn’t have approved though. Last year however I started my first business, which is doing well. I’m looking into my second and my third as we speak and it’s at that point that I will discontinue my education. It won’t be a popular decision, but in the end it is my decision to make. I won’t say I know it’s for the better. Perhaps the alternative is, a good education. However if I never tried to pursue my fond for entrepreneurship, business, finance, real estate, philosophy and life in general, I would be a miserable fuck.
So this is why I write to your dear world. Give less fucks about what doesn’t really matter.
“The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s about giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.”
― The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck
Prioritise your life, according to yourself and your beliefs. Just don’t let anything change who you are and make you do stuff that you subconsciously don’t want. Remember that you’re the director of your own play that is your life. There is drama, there is happiness, there is sorrow and there is love. You’re the playwright who decides the fate of the main character, yourself. Would you want him to pursue his dreams or would you see him drowned like Atlantis? I think we all know the answer, so start writing.